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Friday, February 22, 2008

So many reasons to be happy

"Got my dreams, got my life, got my love; Got my friends, got the sunshine above. Why am I making this hard on myself when there's so many beautiful reasons I have to be happy?"

Two things about that quote: 1. I like it. It makes sense. 2. I am now an official wimp, having just used the lyrics from a Natasha Bedingfield song.

I don't have much else to say except that I terribly miss not being able to write; not being able to express myself here.

We're moving and it's taking every physical ounce of me to get through. Add to that the wonderful memories here -- the paintings; our anniversary party under the lights of our avocado tree; the feeling of peace I'd get walking in the door; the Christmas before last; the sound of laughter.......

Now I'm making a home on my own. It's so weird. But God has an amazing sense for timing. I met with The Rock Academy a day after Jeseca died. The boys were accepted. I was needed more often at work, and the very day I had to report the boys started their ARTS class. Now we're moving. God will surely reveal to me why here and now.

I was asked in an interview a few months ago if I could predict what the next few years would be like. I thought it a silly question, honestly. I responded by admitting that I would never be able to predict what God will do as He guides me down this road toward Him. It ever winds and bends; when I think a right turn's coming, inevitably I need to turn left. Nothing ever works out the way I think it should or will. In fact, it's quite the opposite most of the time. And that's exactly the way it's supposed to be, at least as far as I can tell. God doesn't want to give me the road map for my life so I can take it and run off without Him. Instead, He simply asks that I cultivate that mustard seed of faith and allow Him to do what He does best.

He'll make all things good in time. Right now I just need to wait and listen. JG

Friday, February 08, 2008

Finishing

So much can happen in the span of two weeks. So much does happen. Yet I still see the hand of God at work in so many areas for our family.

Everen and Christian in their newly created masks from ARTSWork has asked more of me; more time. No longer can I simply work the seven straight hours from 7:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. -- apparently it wasn't enough. So on Tuesdays and Thursdays I am required in the office an additional 2-3 hours. Prior to my beginning this new set of hours, however, a colleague of mine introduced me to A Reason To Survive (ARTS). It turns out the founder of the organization lost his mom to cancer in the early '90s, so he started the non-profit to help other children deal with loss through visual and performing arts. Everen and Christian are enrolled on Tuesdays and Thursdays, 3:00 to 5:00 p.m., making masks and learning to beat the drums as loud as they possibly can.......at no charge. Our God is an amazing, loving, gracious God.

Jeseca's book illustrations of Bessie ColemanI've also finished transcribing Jeseca's fourth journal (just one more to go!!!), and just today finalized the layout and design of her first official book; the book she illustrated for the airport here in San Diego: Bessie Coleman - The Story of an Aviation Pioneer. It's beautiful. (Here's a preview of the book as it will be seen on the airport's website. Up to 30,000 are being printed. I want to thank Aaron Ishaeik for completing one of Jeseca's original illustrations. Well done, Aaron.)

I wrote the tribute to her and a dedication to the boys. And as I handed it off to print, it gave me hope that I will be able to finish each of the other projects we started together.

Something else I've found is that I've gone from mourning to contemplation. Somehow, in some way, God has taken away my need to revisit every day we spent together with sorrow. Instead, now I think about the life we led and the paths that joined our hearts as one after nearly 12 years together.

There have been times in the past several months (the sixth month is just a week away) when I would sit here at 2:00 a.m., listening to the music we cherished together; times when I would listen over and over to Michael Buble's Lost; times when I would fall to my knees as my soul cried out in anguish over the separation from the woman I believed would accompany me to the end of my days........ That's gone now. Part of me doesn't know how to feel about it. The other part glorifies God for his unwaivering lenience and gracious love for the sinful heart that continues to beat steadily in my chest.

He is such a loving God, caring more for me than I could ever imagine. He truly gives light to those who sit in darkness. He steadies the feet of the righteous, and picks up those who stumble.

Jeseca lives on in a place I will never begin to comprehend. I'm not there yet. But I owe him my very best until I am. JG

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